Things to Remember!

It is obvious, but any relationship without regular interaction and communication is going to have problems, especially when there is a lack of commitment. Don't wast time with someone who only wants you around when it is convenient for them. You shouldn't have to force someone to make space in their life for you, because if they truly care about you they will gladly create space for you. Being in a relationship with someone who overlooks your worth is not loyalty, it is stupidity. Never beg someone for attention. Know you self-worth and move on if you must.

Some people will refuse to accept that you are no longer who you used to be - that you've made mistakes in the past, learned from then and moved past them. They may not be able to stand the fact that you are growing and moving on with your life, and so they will try to drag your past to catch up with you. Do not help them by acknowledging their negative behavior. Keep moving forward. Holding on to the unchangeable past is a waste of energy! It serves NO purpose. If someone continuously judges you by your past and holds it against you, you might have to leave them behind.

A healthy relationship keeps the doors and windows wide open. Plenty of air flowing and no one feels trapped. Relationships thrive in this kind of unrestricted environment. You can come and go as you please, but you choose to stay because where you are is where you want to be! If you want to be a part of someone's life, all the open doors and windows in the world won't make you leave.

If you allow others to define your dreams and abilities, then you enable them to hold you back. What you are capable of achieving is not a function of what other people like is possible for you. What you are capable of achieving depends on what you choose to do with your time and energy. Look beyond the presumptions and mental limitations of others; connect with your own best vision of YOUR life. Life is an open-ended journey. What you achieve comes from what you expect to achieve and your you work to achieve. Don't worry about what everyone else thinks. Keep living YOUR truth. The only people who will get mad at you for doing so are those who want you to live a lie.

Love is a verb, not a noun. It is ACTIVE in all relationships. Love is not just feelings of passion and romance between lovers; it is also a behavior among friends and family. If someone lies to you, they are un-lovingly disrespecting you and your relationship. When you keep someone in your life who is a chronic liar, and you keep giving them new chances to be trusted, you have a lot in common with this person - you are BOTH lying and being un-loving to YOU!! Bottom line: Those who avoid the truth and tell you only what you want to hear, do so for their own benefit, not yours!

The negative people i n your life don't just behave negatively towards you, but towards everyone they interact with. What they say and do is a projection of their own reality - their own issues. Even if they say something to you that seem personal - even if they insult you directly - it likely has zero to do with you. This is important to remember because whet these negative people say and do shouldn't be taken to heart. Although you don't have control over what they say and do, you do have control over whether or not you allow them to say and do these things to you. You alone can deny their venomous words and actions from invading your heart and mind. Positive things happen when you distance yourself from negative people. Doing so doesn't mean you hate them, it simply means you respect yourself.

A little bit of envy is OK, but when someone is excessively envious of what you have, there is a good chance what they really want it to take it from you. Excessive envy doesn't tell you how much someone admires you, it tells you how much they dislike themselves. If you can, try to help lift them up but also be careful that they don't pull you down. Oftentimes no amount of love, or promises, or proof from you will ever be enough to make them feel better about themselves. For the broken pieces they carry are pieces they must mend for themselves. Happiness, after all, is an inside job!

Truth be told no human being is superior! No race, size or shape is inferior. If you judge others by their skin color, body size, and their outer beauty, you will miss EVERYTHING about who they really are!! It is amazing the quality of people you will learn about and meet in this world if you can simply get past the fact that lots of people are not dressing and living the way you do. People who motivate you to judge or hate others are as bad as bad company gets!

Spend time with people who see you the way you are and not as they wish to think you are. Spend even more time with those who truly know about you and who love and respect you anyway!! If someone expects you to be someone you are not, take a step back. It is wiser to lose relationships over being who are than to keep them intact by acting like someone you are not!! It is easier to nurse a little heartache and meet someone new, than it is to piece together your own shattered identity. It is easier to fill an empty space within you life where someone else used to be than it is to fill the empty space within yourself where YOU used to be!

You Are More

Today is quick and easy...it is all I can handle

I feel in love with this song I heard by Tenth Avenue North a few months ago and came across it again today. I truly needed to find this and read it again. It is where I am today!

There's a girl in the corner
With tear stains on her eyes
From the places she's wandered
And the shame she can't hide

She says, "How did I get here?
I'm not who I once was.
And I'm crippled by the fear
That I've fallen too far to love"

But don't you know who you are,
What's been done for you?
Yeah don't you know who you are?

You are more than the choices that you've made,
You are more than the sum of your past mistakes,
You are more than the problems you create,
You've been remade.

Well she tries to believe it
That she's been given new life
But she can't shake the feeling
That it's not true tonight

She knows all the answers
And she's rehearsed all the lines
And so she'll try to do better
But then she's too weak to try

But don't you know who you are?

You are more than the choices that you've made,
You are more than the sum of your past mistakes,
You are more than the problems you create,
You've been remade.

'Cause this is not about what you've done,
But what's been done for you.
This is not about where you've been,
But where your brokenness brings you to

This is not about what you feel,
But what He felt to forgive you,
And what He felt to make you loved.

You are more than the choices that you've made,
You are more than the sum of your past mistakes,
You are more than the problems you create,
You've been remade.


Truly...I am more than the choices I have made! I am more than the sum of my past mistakes! I am more than the problems I create!! This is NOT about what I feel...It is about what HE felt to forgive me and what HE felt to make me loved!

His Amazing Grace!!

And so begins my journey!